To like or not to like? That is the question in today’s social media frenzy world

The other day I found myself posting my condolences on an old acquaintances Facebook wall and later thought to myself, why?  I know them only coincidentally through a friend, whom I don’t even speak with anymore, and even back then our relationship (if you want to call it that) was merely a, “Hey, how’s it going?” type of thing.  So why the sudden urge to unofficially become their online support group and think that my words of sympathy have any affect on their emotions towards their newly deceased relative?  I didn’t know their grandmother, nor did know the existence or non-existence of my friends relationship with them.

This also made me question the “LIKE” button that Facebook offers its users.  When we click that little button and see the iconic “thumbs up” symbol, what does it really mean?  Am I just showing this person that I’ve acknowledged and read their status?  What does it even matter to them if I have or not?  Or what if I “like” it, but don’t leave a comment?  What does that say about me?  Did I not have anything nice to say?  Did I want them to know that I took the time to read it, but didn’t want to seem like I’m too interested in what they have to say?  And is it really OK to “like” a status pertaining to the death of your family pet? Or that you’ve dislocated your wrist?  I’ve never understood the proper etiquette of using “like” and why it even exists.

When I see someone “like” a rather negative status, be it a death in the family or your newfound knowledge of the incurable disease your brother’s mother-in-law’s, sister has been diagnosed with,  I often think to myself, “Is that really something to be ‘liked’?”  How would you feel like you’ve got 32 “likes” on the mishap you had with a creditor that left you bankrupt?  Would it then lead to a type of selfless worth, where you feel everyone is happy for your misfortune?  Did you ever think about that?

And speaking of which, why do people even feel the need to post things like- “Just filed for bankruptcy.”  Is this something you really want people to know?  Are you just seeking sympathy?  A reaction?  Are you hoping someone will bail you out, or be the new signee for the car you just had repossessed and can’t replace because your credit has now gone to shit?

Social media platforms, such as Facebook, give us not only the grounds to become psychiatrists, medical practitioners, and electrical engineers, who we turn to for advice, but it’s allowing us to believe it.  As a society, we’ve become obsessed with checking our Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, etc., on a daily, 24/7 basis, seeking the reactions of millions of other people all the while giving our own insights into things we shouldn’t even be tapping into.  Instead of leaning on an actual friend or family member for support during hard times, or even the good ones, we reach out to the rest of the universe in hopes to get the response we’re looking for.  What does that say about us as a whole? 

But as the years carry on, we’ll all continue to adapt and succumb to new media platforms and steer away from reality, slipping slowly into a digital world.


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Valentine’s Day has come again

It’s that time of the year again, when couples inadvertently treat each other with extra attention and affection.  By tomorrow, things should be back to normal, when life returns itself into its typical state and couples carry on as though today never existed.  When I logged onto my Facebook this morning my newsfeed, as expected, was overloaded with Valentine’s Day posts…people publicly expressing their undying love for their girlfriends/boyfriends, husbands/wives and so on.  There was also your highly expected, “I hate Valentine’s Day” posts, from the single people who, for whatever reason realize on this one day of the year that they’re lonely (this too, will also be suppressed by tomorrow, once the hype of the Hallmark holiday is over).

As someone who rarely, if ever celebrates this day of Saint Valentine, I find it silly to wait all year just to really show your appreciation and love for that one special person in your life.  I try my hardest, in between work and the every day hustle and bustle that life presents to me, to make it known to my husband that I truly care about the things he does, and has done for me.  Over the years I’ve found that small expressions such as buying his favorite candy bar, or leaving a “love’ note/s around the house, go a long way in the appreciation department. You should try it and see for yourself…

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I’m a Flower Now

I'm a Flower Now

Because sometimes in life you just have to fit in.

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For being thankful…thankful I am.

It’s Thanksgiving! And it’s also my first official post. Couldn’t think of a better way to begin then by thanking you all for tuning in to my thoughts, views, opinions and what not.

As I sit here at work (I know it’s Thanksgiving, but being in the hotel management life, holidays aren’t always a guaranteed day off unfortunately), I realize that I have a lot to be thankful for during my 27 years here on this earth. Starting with my most recent gratefulness, my husband. In just 14 short days (not that I’m counting) we will be celebrating our very first wedding anniversary. I honestly couldn’t have asked for a better man by my side to go through the everyday hustle and bustle of life with. He completes me…I know this line is definitely stolen, and has been quoted a million times, by a million different people, in a million different relationships, but it’s just so Hallmark-ish and meaningful that I couldn’t resist.

Anyway, I’m also thankful for my family, because without them, who would I be? They’ve done more for me, and have been there for me in more ways than I could ever imagine or even begin to thank them for…and this is why I love them.

My friends, old and new, I’m thankful for them. Without them I don’t know what I’d do on any given night when I’m ready to take over the world! Or maybe just take over the city, or possibly just drive around and simply just talk sh*t with. I couldn’t have picked a better bunch of people to call my close friends, and I wouldn’t change them for anything.

Finally, I’m thankful for all of the opportunities I’ve been given in my life. Being able to accomplish a degree in Journalism and pick up my very first reporting position fresh out of college in Central Texas was beyond amazing, and while it only lasted a year (due to my husbands separation from the US Army and moving back home to good old New Jersey) it was definitely an experience and helped open up my eyes to the world of words and people. And while finding work back here in NJ wasn’t as eventful upon my return, I’m thankful for my current job and being able to meet some pretty neat people along the way at the hotel (both behind and in front of the counter). With that being said, it’s probably time I get back to doing actual work before I become thankful for unemployment 😛

And with even more reason…here’s a little something I did this morning…enjoy!

Happy Thanksgiving!!!

Happy Thanksgiving!!!

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Be Yourself

Be yourself; everyone else is already taken. ― Oscar Wilde

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